#AskShaira: What's your ideal guy?

Out of the blue while talking to a friend on the phone, she asked me a random question that most people keep on asking me: What's my ideal guy? I'm not into writing posts about guys or about love here on the blog because I don't have any of it. But because I want you guys to read something new here on the blog I made that question an inspiration for this post and thought of finally answering it here! Hahaha! As early as now, (to whoever will be able to relate or will have a violent reaction after reading this) I'm already warning you that this post is based on my honest opinions and experiences. 

 I don't get easily attracted to someone. It's not that I have unreachable standards (because, honestly, you'll be surprised when you know what those are) but I know myself and I know what I want. I have a friendly personality, not suplada or even maldita that I can be easily approached by anybody. I admit it, I haven't been in a relationship (like almost all people I met still doesn't believe it!!! Guys, bakit ang hirap paniwalaan na NBSB ako?) not because I always put that little space between boy and friend but because I just still haven't feel that "he's the one" feeling to any of the guys who confessed to me.  To tell you honestly, I'm not more of the "looks" kind of person. When it's not "the looks equates the personality" it's the "personality that overlaps the looks". What do I mean by personality? Consistency is the key. Madami kaseng lalaking magaling lang sa una. I'm sorry but it's the reality. How will a girl be interested kung sa una lang pala magaling at nag eeffort, right? 

Guy # 1: Hanggang salita lang pala. Yung icha-chat ka, makikipagkilala, then you two get comfortable with each other tapos sasabihin na gusto ka. What's next, itatanong kung pwedeng manligaw? Yung willing daw maghintay hanggang sa maging ready ka pero ano, na seen mo lang ng isang beses, magtatampo na agad tapos naglaho na din na parang bula. Wow ha!!! Don't you get it? Your consistency and patience are being tested! Sorry but you FAILED! Guy # 2: Lulubog-lilitaw. Yung ichachat ka for straight a week tapos pagkatapos wala na. Magchachat na lang ulit kung kelan niya magustuhan. Ano yun, pampalipas oras ka lang??!! Guy # 3: Torpe. Yung ichachat ka pero hindi naman marunong makipag-usap ng ayos. Ikaw pa yung magdadala ng conversation nyo. I'm sorry but I really hate people like this!!! Guy # 4: Ball is Life. Yung ginawa ng mundo ang basketball. I don't hate guys who play basketball. What I hate is yung nagpapabaya na just to give basketball more time. Hello, there's more to life than playing basketball. I hope he'll realize it. Guy # 5: Super happy go lucky. Yung wala ng ibang ginawa kundi ang magpasarap sa buhay. I mean, kumusta naman ang ibang bagay? Don't you have other more important priorities in life? I know gala ako pero I have limitations. Guy # 6: Playboy. This guy seems serious. Yung magagaling magsalita na halos madala ka na pero the next thing you know ang dami nya palang reserve. Ang masaklap pa minsan, ang lakas ng loob e hindi naman kagwapuhan. Like seriously?!! Have you met those kind of people? Those kind of people are up for no good. 

For me, the real ones are the serious ones- serious when it comes to studies and career, serious when it comes to his goals, serious when it comes to his life and serious when it comes to me. A guy who will try to reach out and build a communication with me inspite of his busy life. He will update me with a simple "Hi", "Good Morning" or even just a quick wave a day just to make me know that he's still there and interested. A guy who will try to get to know me more- the things that I like, the things that I love to do, my hobbies and my family. (I hate when guys ask for my address!!!) and just like the opposite, He will not be ashamed of sharing his own life story without me even asking about it. I feel comfortable to guys who feel comfortable with me (that's why I hate torpe!!!) There's nothing more attractive than a man who has big goals and dreams and does everything to achieve it. It's what makes me motivated and inspired- to see my man preparing for his future and achieving everything he once dreamt of. A guy whom you can be crazy with whether you have the means of going on a trip or just staying at home- a guy who's never boring to be with. A guy who will stick with me not just during the good times but most especially during the worst times. A guy who will help me discover more of myself and teach me a lot of new things. A guy who loves his family so much especially his mom and siblings and last but not the least, a guy who puts GOD first in his life. 

I don't want expectations anymore but I hope that soon, when it's already my time, I get to meet my match who will fill all those hopes and what if's in my daydreams and imagination. 

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xoxo,